Gender Rigidity

When We fall in love, we become victims of emotions that we cannot control. We make decisions about partners we cannot rationally explain. Our bad choices of partners are often repeated over time, as if we are driven by some demon deep within ourselves. it is common for relationships to fall apart due to misreadings and miscommunications on both sides, and without knowing the reasons for the break down, we will go through exactly the same process with the next person.

Gender Projection Types

The Variation of gender projection are infinite, but here are the six most common types. As we go through these projections, try to recognize any tendency toward one of these forms of projection within yourself. Furthermore, watch out for how people will project their desires and fantasies on to you. 

The Devilish Romantic

The Women who is usually drawn to a man who is older and successful and who can lavish her with attention and gifts. In order to attract his attention, she decides to seduce him. After time, however, she realizes that his masculine, powerful, and romantic qualities fall short of what she imagined. The attention she gets is not sufficient or does not last long. She is powerless to change him, and he will not change, so he walks aways from her.

A women in this scenario has become trapped by the attention paid to her by her father in early childhood. It becomes her lifelong goal to reclaim that attention and the power that came with it. To attract the attention they desire, they have to constantly be flirtatious and charming.

The Elusive Woman of Perfection

The man who thinks he has found the perfect women. Although he hasn't had any encounters with the woman in question, He can imagine all kind of positive encounters with her in the future. Despite his best efforts, he will quickly become disenchanted. Her character is not what he thought it would be; she deceived him. He then proceeds to project his fantasy on to the next woman. 

Often, men susceptible to this projection grew up without a supportive mother. A mother of this sort might have expected her son to give her the attention and support she was lacking from her husband. Due to this role reversal, the boy who becomes a man feels emptiness inside and a need to fill the attention he didnt recieve in the childhood. 

The loveable Rebel

The women who is attracted to the men that have a disdain for authority. This man, unlike the Devilish Romantic, is usually young and unsuccessful. Moreover, he tends to be outside her usual circle of friends. Even though the relationship breaks apart, the fantasy remains intact.

Woman with this projection often have a distant and strict father who is strong and patriarchal. As a girl, she dreamed of being independent and assertive, but was restricted to following her father's orders and playing the role of the obedient daughter. 

The fallen Women

The man who os attracted to the opposite of what he used to be: good, obedient, and trustworthy. This type of men often had strong mother figures as children. Subconsciously, they gravitate towards women who are imperfect, bad, or from different cultures and/or social classes. His goal to rescue her, but over time he realize she isn't what he had expected. These men have a passive and masochistic anima, and they are often merey used as pawns by these women.

The Superior Man

The woman who is drawn to the superior man. His confidence and power radiate through him. He could be a successful businessman or a professor. Among women, this type of projection is very common and is due to feeling of inferiority. Being unable to develop her own confidence or strength, she tends to search for these traits in men and exaggerate their appearance in her imagination. She often attracts men who are attracted to younger women, who they can dominate (the professor seducing the student scenario). 

Typically, these men fail to be as clever or brilliant as she imaginves, so the woman either leaves disappointed or gets stuck with here low self-esteem and bends to his manipulations. She should Cultivate genuine self-confidence so that she can evaluate the value and character of the men she meets before being misguided. 

The Woman to Worship him

The an who seeks a woman who will worship him. His life is hard, but he is driven and ambitious. His life seems to be lacking something. A woman comes along who is warm, attentive, and engaging to him. When he pursues certain types of woman, he subtly positions them to play the mother role so they can support, adore and enhance his ego. 

Generally, this male projection stems for his relationship with the mother, who adores him and lavishes him with attention. She has empowered the boy, and he becomes addicted to that kind of attention. He seeks and expects the same attention from the women he meets. This man should see the pattern of these relationships throughout his life. He must be able to take care of himself.